Comments on: Dealing with my fathers diagnosis of esophageal cancer? Wanting answers on prognosis, and other feelings.? http://vadercancer.com/dealing-with-my-fathers-diagnosis-of-esophageal-cancer-wanting-answers-on-prognosis-and-other-feelings Mon, 08 Mar 2010 02:55:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: midnightmoon http://vadercancer.com/dealing-with-my-fathers-diagnosis-of-esophageal-cancer-wanting-answers-on-prognosis-and-other-feelings/comment-page-1#comment-481 midnightmoon Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:40:40 +0000 http://vadercancer.com/dealing-with-my-fathers-diagnosis-of-esophageal-cancer-wanting-answers-on-prognosis-and-other-feelings#comment-481 First, taking a break for me time is NOT selfish. Me time is important during times like this. In fact, you should try to make sure you have atleast 30 mins to an hour of me time at least a day, in my opinion. But, my best advice is for you to join a support group. His doctors will be able to give you references to several local groups. Most people going through this stuff needs some sort of outside help to deal. The support group will give you a safe outlet to vent your feelings. As far as answers on prognosis, your father (or you if your father allows you to talk to the doctor) need to ask some pointed questions and get some actual explanations. You guys should write out all of your questions, schedule a consultation apt with the docs before treatment starts, and have the docs explain the answers until you can walk away and explain it to someone else. If you want bring a voice recorder, but I recommend at the very least writing down the answers. First, taking a break for me time is NOT selfish. Me time is important during times like this. In fact, you should try to make sure you have atleast 30 mins to an hour of me time at least a day, in my opinion.

But, my best advice is for you to join a support group. His doctors will be able to give you references to several local groups. Most people going through this stuff needs some sort of outside help to deal. The support group will give you a safe outlet to vent your feelings.

As far as answers on prognosis, your father (or you if your father allows you to talk to the doctor) need to ask some pointed questions and get some actual explanations. You guys should write out all of your questions, schedule a consultation apt with the docs before treatment starts, and have the docs explain the answers until you can walk away and explain it to someone else. If you want bring a voice recorder, but I recommend at the very least writing down the answers.

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